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On the necessity of the death of virginity

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Mamdouh Bitar, Mira Bitar:

       On the wedding day, the woman is either honored or humiliated. We do not know of any justification for turning the first day of marriage into an occasion for honoring the woman or an occasion for humiliating the woman. The fact that we do not see any justification for passing judgment on the woman or evaluating her on the wedding day does not mean that others do not see the justification for that. On the wedding day, according to popular sentiment, the matter of virginity becomes clear through the matter of the hypothetical hymen, because in reality this membrane does not exist. Either the woman succeeds in gaining the honor of people, especially the husband, or she fails, and thus her humiliation becomes a logical result of her evaluation.
We are in the twenty-first century, in the context of a development that we watch and do not participate in making. Virginity has died in the societies that represent a model for us, and in imitating them we have no other choice in all aspects of life, whether scientific, political, material or even intellectual, since we do not possess anything worth mentioning of all that was mentioned. We have a past that we have dyed in a bright color, and our failure to create a bright present and a promising future wants to return to it. Therefore, there is no escape from intruding on others in order to ensure our continuation in physical existence, from participating in making the renewed modern life and from the necessity of providing anything acceptable and useful to humanity that even provides us with fodder. We do not want to talk. Talking here is painful and it is difficult to bear its objectivity and realism, and there is no need to participate in falsification, deception and empty boasting. There are enough falsifiers, puffers and those who live the lie in its smallest details.
 What is the value of virginity, symbolically and in substance? Is honoring and respecting a woman after the wedding day equivalent to a surgical operation that takes a quarter of an hour, or buying a Chinese hymen for $15? What is the point of refusing to understand reality, which even in Arab and Islamic societies confirms the issue of virginity’s decline and death, with the exception of primitive peoples who insist on preserving the symbolism of defloration and blood rituals.
    The ritual of defloration has practically become an invention of a new surgical profession in the framework of the necessity of what is not necessary, the necessity of virginity as one of the signs of high honor, and statistics indicate these days that a little more than half of the men in our societies have practiced sex before marriage and less than half of the women have practiced sex before marriage, so it is necessary for women to remain honored even without a hymen, and any attempt to link honor to the subject of the hymen will fail because its main and basic goal in the long run is to objectify women and devalue them in order to facilitate their sale and purchase, as a woman whose honor is equal to the hymen is a cheap and cheap creature like the hymen, a used woman and therefore less honorable than a new one is much less expensive than a sealed woman…like any other commodity!!
The strange thing about the resistance of the Arab Muhammadan thought to enlightenment is the ability of this thought to practice complete disregard for the open horizon of equality between the sexes and the absence of the formula for monitoring the woman’s hymen, ignoring the human rights system and the definition of this system for the concept of pleasure, which is very far from the religious concept of pleasure, as pleasure is a natural human right. Religiously, the culture of chastity was founded on subduing the sexual desires of both parties. The culture of chastity corresponds to the culture of masturbation, where the opportunity to test the self is absent due to the lack of communication between the sexes, thus the woman’s ability to take revenge on the man is absent. Masturbation negates the woman’s ability to discover impotence in the man and thus her possession of a weapon to subjugate the man as he subjugated her regarding virginity.
The impact of the issue of virginity on society makes the issue of virginity and virginity a social issue that includes a lot of possibility of practicing violence and belittling by both parties. A society in which virginity and its value have died is a society in which a bundle of artificial and unnecessary problems has died. A society in which sexual repression has died, which even hinders women’s movement in the street. Moving in the street means being exposed to harassment, which Egypt is at the forefront of practicing. This is not to mention the other numerous and shocking complications that sexual repression produces.
Is it rational to wait for virginity to die out gradually and naturally, just as the human tail became extinct??? Or is it absolutely necessary to conduct an enlightenment campaign to remove virginity from its sacred status and bury it, just as others have buried it???
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